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5th-Mar-2006 07:37 pm - Crush
I think my friend that I've been hanging out for a week or more, he likes me. *blushes* Well.. I like him too but like I said I don't want to rush it. *sighs* We're supposed to hang out today but apprently there's a flu bug going around yeah, so his stomach hurts. I haven't gotten sick all I have to deal with is my allegies and that how I usually get a cold. So.. what should I do? Still be friends with or just not hang out with him at all?
2nd-Mar-2006 09:45 pm - I met someone
I met a someone at my school not too long ago, and we started hanging out. He's a white and I'm black but anyways, I like him, well I think I'm beginning to like him. He's really nice and sweet. He does really make me happy which is good, I guess. When he walked me to the door, I got really nervous. I thought he was going to kiss me but he didn't. That's probably a good idea, because we haven't known each other that long, I truly think that we enjoy each other company and I think we both like each other, he is 19 yr old just like me.
19th-Jan-2006 01:40 am - Hello
Hi everyone.

I just joined this community and wainted to introduce myself. My name is Shay and I'm 20. I'm from the D.C Metropolitan area and I go to school in Baltimore, Maryland. I'm interested in guys of every color, but white guys tend to be my guilty pleasure. :-)

I am currently in a very loving relationship, but I love to meet new people. I look forward to talking to you guys and mkaing friends.

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15th-Jan-2006 07:45 pm - Realizetion
Hey everyone, I'm doing good. I'm happy that I'm single and I realize that I'm not going be looking for a boyfriend. I'm really tired of looking for one. I'm back in school now so that's been keeping me fairly busy. I have to finish my essay if I don't I'm going to continued to forget about it. Heh
6th-Jan-2006 02:18 pm(no subject)
I think I finally understand it now. I'm destined to be alone, forever. I'll never have a boyfriend. Of course I'm 19 so..
I've been single for 5 months. It's been really rough for me. I dated 2 white guys, who both were controlling. I'm interested in Asian guys too. I'll never have boyfriend.. I'll just be lonely.
27th-Dec-2005 03:27 pm - Hello.
Finally! I found a community that has white guys and black women! I joined a few japenese communitys too but only a few people added me. My name is Amber, I'm 19 years old I happened to black by the way. I did date two white guys, I won't really go into that. I live in Minnesota, if you guys want to know more my e-mail is AmakuraKei@aol.com. My friends say I'm not like most black girl who live in Minnesota. I'm not loud, I'm shy and quiet. Heh.
15th-Dec-2005 07:19 pm - new & interested
I came across this community by accident, but it's seems interesting. I'm a 29yr old BF, who's interested in WM, but I'm also fascinated by the topic of interracial relationships, in general. Later.
8th-Oct-2005 04:48 pm - Gina Torres is <3!!!!!!!!!!!
I just went to see "Serenity" today. If you haven't seen it, it's based on the Fox T.V. show "Firefly" I never saw the show myself but I adore Gina Torres. If there's a more beautiful woman in hollywood today I haven't seen her. A nice surprise in the movie is that it features a *gasp!* interracial relationship. The kind of play it low key, but it's there. What made this all the more satisfying is that I was just thinking the other day that you almost *never* see a interracial couple on T.V. and never in commercials. I'm going to put the "Firefly" DVD set on my christmas list. Everyone should go see it! And if you buy me "Firefly" on DVD I'll love you forever!
6th-Oct-2005 09:43 am(no subject)
::Sailor Mercury::
hello there :)

my name is tamara and i am a black female from...well...pretty much everywhere because i am an army brat :).

i am a 3rd year student at Palm Beach Atlantic University in west palm beach, florida. i am a christian...who loves everyone!! oh! i forgot to mention my age...hehehe...i'm 21 years old :).

if you want to know anything else about me let me know and i will tell ya.
29th-Sep-2005 10:22 pm - hello.
hello. my name is chad. im from nw indiana. im looking for friendship possibly more..i have just gotten my heart broken recently. so i am so scared of it happening again. but i am fasinated by black women. mostly all I seem to be attracted to.. i could really use someone to talk to...interracial relationships move me. i really enjoy seeing it. music is a huge part of my life. mostly pop rock stuff, like the used and my chemical romance, from first to last. stuff like that. sappy songs for a broken hearted fool. thanks. bye :)
16th-Sep-2005 05:05 pm - Hello
Hello group! I'm a 22 year old white guy who has loved black women ever since my first girlfriend way back when. Unfortunately for me, I grew up in a small town in the Midwest and haven't dated one since. :(

I recently moved out to Los Angeles, and I'm like a kid in a candy store out here, there is a ridiculously beautiful black girl every time I turn around it seems like. I was seriously doubting my heterosexuality there for a moment back home because I just got so bored of white girls, I am no longer concerned about that now lol. Anyways, I'm new to lj too, and I was pleasantly surprised to find this group and so I thought I would say hi and go fishing for friends.

Nice to meet everyone!
5th-Aug-2005 01:11 pm(no subject)
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Are you able to be completely monogamous to a partner for life in a marriage or LTR?

Why or why not? What do you think would happen if you forced yourself to resist temptation each and every time? What do you feel you'd be losing by not exploring if you believe that you must be able to reasonably cheat at some point in a committed relationship?

Also if you've never been with anyone else sexually (as a man or woman) and you commit yourself to one person for the rest of your life, do you believe that you'd be able to be ONLY with them until death? This question also applies to anyone who has gotten married at a younger age?

Anyway, here's an article where the actress Kate Hudson gave her opinion on monogamy. I understand she's "in" Hollywood and that could affect her view on relationship commitment and the reality of it, but still a lot of people who aren't famous express the same opinion she gives in this article. What are your thoughts?


Hudson: Couples Have 'Power' for Monogamy
Aug 5, 7:40 AM EST

The Associated Press

NEW YORK -- Kate Hudson says monogamy isn't "realistic," but believes couples have the power to be faithful. In an interview Thursday on syndicated TV show "Access Hollywood," the 26-year-old actress said, "I don't believe (monogamy) is realistic. But, I believe that we, as people, have the power to make it happen."

She added: "I will not disrespect my husband and stray."

Hudson, the daughter of actress Goldie Hawn, married Black Crowes singer Chris Robinson on Dec. 31, 2000. The couple have an 18-month-old son, Ryder.

Asked if she believes Robinson has remained faithful, Hudson said, "If you focus your attention on that, then you are always wondering if your husband or men are out there cheating on you.

"If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught."

Hudson was nominated for an Oscar for her role in 2000's "Almost Famous." Her screen credits also include "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days," "Alex & Emma," "Le Divorce" and the upcoming "The Skeleton Key."
5th-Aug-2005 12:20 am - biklar
Just wanted to say. You are doing an awesome job with the community. I like the makeover. :) Looks great!
31st-Jul-2005 12:56 am(no subject)
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What are your views on this article. While I understand what she's trying to say socio-politcally I don't identify with many of her experiences personally. One of them being her implied disappointment towards black men dating interracially. I know some black women are bothered by that but that has never been an issue for me. Neither has narrowing my dating options to only one racial group. Anyway...

I will post an excerpt from the article, but the entire article will be -linked- as well directly below:


"I was first in line for "Wedding Crashers" on opening night, hoping it would be as funny and sexy as it looked. It was. I laughed out loud and had enough naughty thoughts about surfer-dude Owen Wilson to make me squirm a tad in my seat. I'm dying to know what the deal is with that adorable crook-nose and, furthermore, hereby volunteer to faithfully brush those shaggy strands out of his eyes. When Vince Vaughn vulgarly announced himself a "cocksman" and bragged that he was 6-foot-5 -- I'd had no idea! -- there may even have been a slight arching of the back. The closest I've ever come to an interest in math is the few minutes I spent trying to triangulate how tall Owen must be when the two stood side by side. In particular, the highlight of the movie was the early and prolonged scenes of them partying down at a Benneton ad's confection of weddings set to "Shout" -- Hindu, Chinese, Jewish, Irish -- that will be wearing out the replay button on America's remotes when the DVD comes out.

But, somehow, by the end of the parade of weddings crashed and women laid, I realized I was sad. It took me an entire martini to figure out why: The crashers seduced their way through every culture and every ethnicity but mine. Why don't Owen and Vince want to seduce me, too? Why don't they want to dance with my nana at a wedding?

I'm talking about something that grieves black women, that breaks our hearts so much I have never had a conversation with another black woman about it. Or, at least not one that dared venture further than "I bet he's got a white girl" as a gorgeous brother passed by. Our hearts are broken because we are unloved. More than that: Black women are unlovable, or so the world tells us every day. Most often, it's a sucker punch.

When I finally married at 40, it was to the first man who'd asked me out in five years. I had been holding out for a brother but, realizing that was even less likely to happen, finally let that go.

Incapable of giggling, blushing or shutting the hell up. Sisters are essentialized as indefatigable, never in need of a door held open, a chair pulled out. A "how are you doing, really?" I have to believe that somewhere in there is also the belief that the niceties are wasted on us, coarse cows that we are. Bears are happy shitting in the woods and "sistaz" ain't got no time for no nonsense like sweet talk, a man who rises when we do, or a lover to whisper naughty things to in the dark. And we don't need no stinking flowers either, or at least Jamie Foxx's hospitalized mother didn't; in "Collateral," she rejected them and belittled him for his foolishness.

Even when I was a seven-months-pregnant behemoth, I was invisible as I hefted a load of packages to the post office at Christmastime, as I struggled with a pallet of sodas at Costco. I was even invisible in the Tiny Tim confines of the modern airplane. I could hear crickets as I struggled to get my bag into the overhead.

In the '80s and '90s, I reacted to my sexual invisibility vis-à-vis white men with faux feminist sarcasm and wannabe black nationalist contempt. But I'm 46 now and far less full of bullshit. I'm not angry. I'm hurt. It's not that I want white men to want me. I want all men to want me. I want to be seen as desirable, if I actually am. As available, if I actually am. As fuckable, though you should be so lucky. But, because I'm black, I'm somehow seen as a gender crasher, an imposter fronting as a real woman. Liable to get the sexual bum's rush at any moment. No wonder so many of us are bitches. It protects us from rejection if we make it impossible to get anywhere near us in the first place."
28th-Jul-2005 03:32 pm - I'm new here
Hi everyone...I am new to this community. I am a 28y/o college grad, thinking about business school. I have never dated a white guy, but I am very very attracted to white men. Hopefully I will get some pics posted up soon...but if you want a pic I can email you one. TTYL
23rd-Jul-2005 01:07 pm - Newbie!
Hey all. Wanted to say hello. Found this community by doing a random search. My brief bio: 21 year old female, my picture is the icon, I live in Pensacola, Fl. Will be moving to tallahassee soon to finish up college there at FSU. I was born in Fort-Lauderdale, Fl and my parents are from Nigeria so that makes me 100% African American :-) well that is all for now. hope to meet you all soon and chat and make new friends. Leave me a comment. Take care!
22nd-Jun-2005 01:20 am - Financial Compatibility
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Is it important for your partner to have the same financial habits (spending, saving, ambitions etc) as you? Why or why not?

Do you consider it important for your man or woman to make more, less or around the same you that you do?

Also give an estimate of how much your partner should make yearly:

100,000 +

Are you looking to be a middle class, upper middle class or wealthy financial unit with your partner (in marriage)?

As a woman if you married a man and saw later on that he began to spend money irresponsibly, gambled a bit and so forth, would you feel the marriage was doomed, workable or that this would not really change the marriage in a negative way because you'd take care of the finances mostly and this area of compatibility isn't important?

Are you traditional or non-traditional in that the man is supposed to primarily take care of the financial decisions or be the breadwinner of the household or it doesn't matter?

How do you go about finding these things out about a man/woman when you’re dating?
22nd-Jun-2005 01:15 am - Languages & Social Circles
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Do you feel that learning many languages is a plus for relating to various ethnic circles whether it is for dating, friendship, business, etc?

What languages would you like to learn how to speak and why?

What languages do you speak now?

Do you feel that being out of sync with languages can inspire you to misunderstand a culture's ways, customs and general mindset, thus becoming xenophobic and possibly racist or prejudiced?

One thing I've noticed is how some people can encounter someone who doesn't speak English and the automatic assumption is that they must be dumb as well for not understanding English fully, without realizing that in their native language, there is a full personality, thoughts, mindset and everything...like anyone else.

But somehow, the tone that the non-English person winds up being spoken to is in a way where it is like they are retarded or slow.

Some people even make it more degrading by using sign language while talking slowly?
1st-Jun-2005 09:35 am - Still learning my around...
Hi, All. My name is April. I am 28 years old and I live in the Atlanta area. I wanted to say it is nice to see a community like this that I can relate to. :-)
26th-May-2005 12:49 pm(no subject)
I'm in one of those kind of moods where all I can think about is the idea of having someone to love and someone to love me back. Miss being inlove, I mean the way you feel when you can look into someones eyes and see that no matter what they love you and care for you is the best feeling in the world. Love changes people, it suppose to make people better. Love is not something you become but what you already are....if that makes any sense.

I'm in a period of my life where I have my friends and family to love me but I want that one person that totally understands me, if I cry they can kiss my tears away, that makes me laugh whenever I'm down, who can change my outlook of life, and no matter how bad I fuck up will always be there to pick up the pieces. I want to be in a place where if me that person are looking in each others eyes everything around us fades away and I can only see them. Oh how I long for that feeling.....Love these days seems to be based on Sex and looks.... But Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another personhood....I hope everyone understands me. I just felt like talking about my defination of love, I want to love someone. Everyday I learn a new lesson about life and I'm growing into a different person, its scary but at the same time welcoming. I talked with Steve today and we had a very serious conversation and he told me that he's proud of me, because I have changed so much.....as much as I talk about wanting love from a man, I don't need it to complete me. I'm actually doing fine without it, I don't need a man to tell me I'm beautiful, smart, and interesting because I know Iam...I'm just saying that having that kind of love would be an add bonus to life.

Does anyone understand where I'm coming from~ is my idea of love..right?

Leave the love~
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